Coffee, Booze, and Sex: Is it the journey or the destination?

A little lighthearted Friday post, let's think about the classic idea of "enjoying the ride" (a favorite TTL [1] topic). Also known as "Stop and smell the roses" and "process vs. product," this one got me thinking of some fun variations. Of course the basic idea is sound: If we fixate on the end of a journey/process/path, we miss out on most of the living along the way. Cheers!

Let's start with coffee. Process or product? Process if you're an aficionado (test: grind it yourself), and product if you're simply after the caffeine high (test: instant). Related: My favorite, chocolate. For me, both process (it tastes, as our Laotian friend says "yum") and product because I feel a nice sense of contentment [2] after taking the stuff. I'd be remiss if I skipped alcohol. I enjoy the stuff, but I can't tolerate it (destabilizes my mood - see below), so for me it's the process because it leads to product (along with social value), but then I regret the process due to cost (being irritable the next day). You?

How about books? For me, one definition of fiction [3] is that it's the process, not the product. However, you'll agree that great fiction involves both. (Or maybe just the latter, but I avoid those.) For me non-fiction is primarily product, though again, well written ones are a treat to read. The same applies to movies, lectures - any information source, I suppose. Question: What about art?

Continuing: Dental work. My personal health crises revolve around this, and I've thought long and hard about the topic. (Personal note: I have a moderate mood disorder that includes obsessing as a component. This is partially why I am so motivated to self experiment.) Clearly this is more about product than process, although I've become creative about enjoying the process. Working with competent and friendly people helps a lot, as does a deep talent for black humor.

Here's a stimulating one: Sex! Hmmm. As a man, I tend to value process over product ;-) Then again, what is the product? A good friend suggests climax, though my initial thought was "babies." You tell me. (Related: A 2x2: Fun to watch vs. Fun to do. Ponder and report back.)

How about work? The best situation is clearly having both. Question: What about when neither are present? What kind of job would that be? Examples?

Finally, having a body. Another TTL thing I say is that having a body is an experiment. We are born with no user's manual, we have to make it up as we go (a good general test of whether you're doing one), it is constantly changing, and we have limits on our control. It is my favorite one so far.


How about yours? What process vs. product examples do you think about?

References

• [1] Our Think, Try, Learn work continues, with exciting results and directions happening. Edison v1.0 is designed and waiting on our brilliant volunteers to free up some valuable time to bring it into being. Perhaps as a sign of the project coming more fully into being, I've created ... wait for it ... t-shirts! In The Art of Innovation: Lessons in Creativity from IDEO, America's Leading Design Firm Tom Kelley argues that they're an important part of team-building, so I'm trying it out. Hey - an experiment!
  
• [2] And no, it does not have caffeine in it. It contains theobromine, a relative of caffeine that, for me, doesn't over-stimulate and keep me awake at night.
  
• [3] Another definition of fiction is "Does not require note-taking" :-) A little more at How To Read A Lot Of Books In A Short Time.
  

National (or any) news driving you nuts? Here's one way to talk yourself down.

For a few years I put myself on a media diet [1] (newspapers, magazines, radio, and cable TV) to limit how much I take in. I haven't slashed all screen time, just that which drives me to frustration, primarily national US news. (National Health Insurance and the Wall Street and auto industry bailouts are excellent examples.) My personal reason for feeling that way is a disconnect between my country's values as exhibited by action (not the proclaimed ones) and my own. I'll avoid boring you with them (Bill Maher's interview of Bill Moyers pretty much says it) and instead tell you a perspective that gives me some relief.

The solution? Cultivate a healthy sense of detachment via curiosity. By treating the national issues as grand experiments, and asking questions, I feel better. How do we go about this? Following are a few early thoughts. Please share what's given you perspective on the unsettling. (As Ricky Gervais mentions in his stand-up, "Always learning.")

1. Classify it as an experiment. Recognizing that it's an experiment is the big shift. The models are extremely complex, the outcome uncertain, and people (way above me) are taking action (poking the opaque box) and working from the results (Think, Try, Learn). Use the comment, "Interesting" [2], and ask "I wonder what will happen next."
   
2. Consider news as data. Yes it's information, with some facts (possibly accurate), but the spin is always data. Ask "What are they saying?" or "What are their models (implicit and explicit)?"
   
3. Analyze how much control you have. Consider how much control you have over the situation [3]. (Related topic: I'm thinking about a secular version of the Serenity Prayer. It's deep, if slightly nauseating. Thoughts?)
   
4. Treat your reaction as data. You may not like what you're hearing (beware moon hoaxers), but asking about the meta conversation helps be more objective. Step outside yourself and ask "Why am I reacting this way?" "What beliefs is it threatening?"
   
5. Relish surprise. We seem to have a kind of "Novelty Detector" built into our brains (see Learning By Surprise), so notice it when it happens, and ponder it. "Why is this surprising?" "What did I expect?" I've found that keeping myself off guard derails habitual responses. Related: One Way To Enjoy The Ride - Celebrate Surprise!
   
6. Attachment leads to suffering. Anxiety = investment in an outcome. This means that you've limited yourself to a binary condition: Things work out the way the way you wanted, or they didn't. The problem is that you've set the stage for constant anxiety during the experiment: Are things going your way or not? If not, you're unhappy. If so, how long will it stay that way, and what threats are around the corner? Ask yourself "What outcome am I attached to?" They try flipping it. Related: Beware saying "I told you so." When you say or hear this, translate it to "I was afraid I'd be wrong."
   
   

References

• [1] In addition to my posts check out HOWTO: Balance Your Media Diet (stimulating graphic) and Merlin's podcast. I also found A Nation of Morons, which I enjoyed immensely.
  
• [2] A favorite of Spock's. I should apparently be more precise with my use, though:

  Fascinating is a word I use for the unexpected. In this case, I should think "interesting" would suffice.

  
  
• [3] For political action, I confess I've done little - just phone calls and emails to my representatives and president, plus small donations to a few advocacy groups. I feel like I should do more. (That itself tells me I should "incubate" the idea for possible future action.)
  

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"Either you run the day or the day runs you." -- Jim Rohn

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This guide teaches you everything you need to know to successfully adopt a daily planning practice. While the idea is a time management classic, I've updated it to go hand-in-hand with modern productivity methods like Getting Things Done (GTD). The premise is that by investing a small percentage of time each day, you can go home feeling you had a deeply satisfying workday, instead of getting home exhausted and asking "Where did the day go?"

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The word is ... "Law"

Continuing my word is series, this one on "Law." Any productivity/living/law intersections you want to share? Cheers!

• Law of Attraction: I hesitate to even mention this, as I consider it pseudo-scientific claptrap, but open minds I must have. This came on my radar because a good friend tried it (an experiment!) and found it helpful in improving her attitude. She's tried experiments like "stop using no, not, don't" and keeping an abundance journal. The book she used: Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don't. The trouble I have with it is the magical thinking around "wish for it and it happens" - I could never believe that there's a benevolent force in the universe who we can appeal to. On the other hand, I'm a firm believer in attitude changing perception, and therefore how I act, which can cascade into changes (hopefully positive ones) in my life. Comments? Experiences?
  
  
• Clarke's three laws: As a sci-fi buff, I love Clarke's thinking. This one has to do with scientific change:
  
  
  
  1. When a distinguished but elderly scientist states that something is possible, he is almost certainly right. When he states that something is impossible, he is very probably wrong.
     
  2. The only way of discovering the limits of the possible is to venture a little way past them into the impossible.
     
  3. Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic.
     
  Any other favorite eponymously-named laws?
  
  
• Laws of art: I heard these in the interview The Emerging Mind where Professor Ramachandran suggested 10 universal laws of art:
  
  
  
  1. Peak shift
     
  2. Grouping
     
  3. Contrast
     
  4. Isolation
     
  5. PERCEPTION PROBLEM SOLVING
     
  6. Symmetry
     
  7. Abhorrence of coincidence/generic viewpoint
     
  8. Repetition, rhythm and orderliness
     
  9. Balance
     
  10. Metaphor
      
  Do you buy it?
  
  
• Scientific ignorance: From Why the Philosophy of Science Matters:
  

  A sizable proportion of science graduates entering teacher training couldn't define what is a scientific fact, law or hypothesis.

  
  Insert your own commentary on scientific education in the U.S., and compare to the similarly dismal state of health here. Related: What Makes Science 'Science'? ("The results show a lack of understanding of what scientific theories and laws are.")
  
  
• Laptop battery: Recently I was pressing to finish a task when my laptop starting running low on battery power. It occurred to me that is a natural Parkinson's Law enforcer.
  
  
• Newton's laws of motion: From Nicholas Bate's Productivity101:
  

  49. The Celeb's Guide to Productivity (9) Isaac Newton: Newton III: "To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction". Or send more e-mail and you will get more e-mail. Isaac Newton clearly didn't use e-mail. No wonder he articulated gravity, identified laws of motion, clarified light and the spectrum for us and predicted the motion of planetary motion. Amongst a lot of other stuff.

  
  
  
• Grove's Law: What if this applied to individuals as well?
  

  "While microchip price/performance doubles every 12-18 months, telecommunications bandwidth doubles every 100 years!"

  
  (From The Big Switch: Rewiring the World, from Edison to Google.)
  
  
• Laws of natural order: From Path of Least Resistance (paraphrasing):
  

  A big idea here, recognize that structure is a dominant factor and how the laws of natural order relate to that is the essence. The principle is that energy always moves along the path of least resistance, any change you attempt to make in your life will not work, if the path does not lead in that direction. You have to form new structures that will enable you to direct the path of least resistance where you want to go. And that is a big idea on environment, in structuring the environment this is a way to look at that.

  
  
  
• Time, Quality, and Quantity: Brian Tracy, in Focal Point, describes two types of time spent in your life: work time, measured by results and productivity, and personal time, measured in love and contentment. And the law is, it is the quality of time at work that counts and the quantity of time at home that matters. Wow!
  
  
• Newton, redux: From "Wikipedia surfing" John Dewey and Pragmatism: Three historic levels of organization and presentation, in the order of chronological appearance:
  
  
  
  • Self-Action: Prescientific concepts regarded humans, animals, and things as possessing powers of their own which initiated or caused their actions.
    
  • Interaction: as described by Newton, where things, living and inorganic, are balanced against thing in a system of interaction, for example, the third law of motion that action and reaction are equal and opposite.
    
  • Transaction: where modern systems of descriptions and naming are employed to deal with multiple aspects and phases of action without any attribution to ultimate, final, or independent entities, essences, or realities.
    
  Cool. And I'll bet you $5 at least one of my readers has already thought about this :-)